I was raised to use gender neutral pronouns because my mother didn’t want me thinking that one gender was/is better than another. I use “they” and “them” in singular forms all the time. Don’t even think about it. Never been an issue. Now I have an editor who is over 60 and insists he’s not sexist but also insists that I can’t use these terms for gender neutrality. I must pick a gender because “they” and “them” are always plural. To which I reply, Chaucer. Chaucer used “they” and “them” as gender neutrals 500 plus years ago making the usage as old, if not older than, the word “she”. What I’m saying is my usage is not new or unique. How do I explain the importance of gender neutrality to an old, white guy? That gender neutrality doesn’t just help trans-persons or women or that kid at the mall whose gender you can’t determine but everyone?
I have two daughters, so I’m raising two future women. Maybe! I mean, one of them might be a guy later. It’s possible. It could happen. Someday one of my daughters could be like ‘Dad, I’m really a guy’ and I’ll be like ‘Alright well let’s get you a dick, honey. We’ll get you the nicest dick in town.’
Louis CK (reason #94826 why he’s the best comedian)
Somewhere along the way, Louis CK become society’s ideal father and I’m 100% okay with this.
God, I wish I’d married Louis CK instead(via fourlittlebees)
When I first started writing, my narration tended to speak in a So Cal vernacular. I got shit from every editor I used regarding the grammar outside of dialog to which I’d always, and still do, point to Huck Finn. I’m slow so it took me some years to realize they thought I wanted to be Mark Twain, which I do, but grammar changes with class because educational opportunities change with class. Huck Finn is a great example of that. Far too many of these grammar nazis are unrealized classist, but we don’t talk about classism in America. Spell check doesn’t even like the words.